COMMUNICATION IS PARENTING

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Lot of parents have decent job, big salary but spend too much working. They always spending too much time in order for their work to be perfect and to get the atteof their bosses. They went to work morning but in going home late at night. No one has to blame because of it. Their doing these for their families. The future of their children and the thing's their children wanted. Yes, this kind of mindsets is not wrong either. Why do we think they work hard, it's because of their families.

That's why they don't have much time spending on their children. Instead of the children spend so much time in home. They choose to be outside to have and exposed themselves in society. Have you read my yesterday's post about society? Read it here so that you will know how the society affect's us. Why do their children spend too much time at home? There are phone and computer to kill time but for using it for long, it's getting bored. If they became bored they'll find their families to spend time with but they couldn't find it. Father and mother are tired from work. They spent all their energy in working and they have nothing left to spend at home.

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The child starting to feel disappointed and discouraged. As a parent and child has now providing gap. It's normal because they don't talk a lot like they used to. There are something they wanted to talk about. About their achievements in school, about how they became a good person now. The child seems upset as he/she saw their father never ask anymore. The child already imagined that when he/she arrives home, their parents will be happy for him/her. The child already thought how their parents happy for him/her. The child wanted to tell their parent's, **mom and dad, look the score I got in my exam. Did you know that I took the highest score in class."" That's all he thought as he/she walking towards home. But when she/he arrived home, the parents are not there yet. And when they arrived they immediately go to bed.

Now the child starting not to expect emotional happiness from them anymore. As they say, imagination is far from reality. As time passed, the child never did hard for his/her studies and won't be afraid. The child will think that it's fine, mom and dad won't ask after all. Yes, the child that was so sweet before, now turned to a bitter child. Why would he do good, do hardwork if his/her mother won't praise what he/she did. For them it's a waste of time telling what they've accomplished, if the parents won't show an interest.

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Yes, the child now asking love outside. He/she spending time with friends. He's/ She's asking comfort to their friends. Well, your child will be lucky if his/her friends are good. What if he/she will be in the bad guy's. Of course he'll/she'll be exposed in drugs, liquors and robbery. It's possible to happen because where those children or teen ager find money to use if they'll became addicted to it. The child will now be exposed in the dark side of society as he/she growing up. Although society is the reason of it but never forget that before entering in society, at home first.

How can someone blame them if they only ask is love from their parents. They'll be praised of what kind of hardwork that pay's off. They want to spend time with parent's as he/she saw a happy families outside. Everyone feel's envy, it's part of our emotions that cannot be simply ignored. That's why communication is one of the best type's of parenting.

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Communication will help a child to be raised well. What if the child has problems but afraid to spill because the parents might be mad. As a parent we should be the one to ask first. Hear their story what happened and give advice's after hearing it. They should understand that even a child can experience problems in life. The parent's must be there to let them feel that they're not being alone. We never know someone bullying them and if we ask them we will realise and can prevent those thoughts in his/her mind.

Communicating of your child is a big deal gor them. They can feel the love and the happiness. Many thing's that can be learned by talking. The child achieve's something that the child can be proud of their self and continue on doing their best. It might be simple but it's priceless.

It's not too late I think, have conversation with your children. Let them feel how a family can be and how the love start's.

Thank you for reading...