"Child language", or How to say it, so that the child understands you

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What father would not want his children to understand them at the first time? But usually, in conversations with children, we miss children thinking differently than adults.

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Therefore, you should communicate with children in a different way than with adults. Then many conflicts will be avoided and close relationships will be maintained with the children. After all, the child will make sure that mom and dad understand and support him.

Explain clearly and figuratively

For a child to remember something correctly, it is not enough for him to listen. You must see, feel, perceive through the senses and emotionally.

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You can tell how dangerous it is to step on the lid of the hatch of the well, and how deep it is, and what kind of pipes there are, and ... your child will immediately forget. In his mind, this same hatch will not come in contact with the danger, on the contrary, he will have to look, touch and stomp on his legs.

But if he disappoints his small and agile son and shows him a thick cover and this deep pit, and even if he throws a pebble there in the dark and talks about what will happen if a person falls there, that information will be embedded in his memory and he will sit firmly there, and at the right time he will remember: "Attention, danger!" That is, it will work at the level of reflection.

So, you want the child to really understand, create an image and use his sensory organs. By the way, for older children, the image is more useful than long speeches and words. He goes straight to the subconscious, and what is there will never be lost.

To play

The game is the best way to transmit the necessary information to the child. In addition, they will be firmly rooted in your memory and at the right time. While the child is small, all "safety lessons" should be carried out in this way and discreetly.

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The best way to transmit something to the child is to play it, living in the game all kinds of difficult situations in which a small person could fall.

Play different situations, show solution options, find a way out of an almost desperate situation. When you play, any advice is taken very differently, without internal protests, because they are always welcome, because you are on equal terms.

Show how to do it right

All children love to climb trees. And there is nothing terrible here. This is training the vestibular apparatus and physical dexterity. But to explain what a dry branch is and how it can break treacherously, how to peel and not fly from a tree, these are our concerns. Of course, it is easier to ban, especially if you have a sad childhood experience, what it feels like to fall and get injured, but in addition to the trees there are fences, logs, construction sites and garbage containers very attractive to children. (And if you are firmly convinced that your baby will never go to "suspicious places" and never, you don't know the children well).

What's next about this?

Try to create phrases so you can do without "no" and "impossible." Avoid rhetorical questions (especially when you're in a bad mood). Be careful and touch with slightly ironic clues, it often seems like a variant of a kind of sophisticated mockery and is also angry, especially for teenagers (they are no longer so sure of themselves). So, your speech should be positive and concrete, kind, but not ironic.

## Source of information:

https://www.conmishijos.com/educacion/comportamiento/que-hacer-para-que-los-ninos-obedezcan-sin-gritarles/
https://www.bebesymas.com/educacion-infantil/nueve-maneras-de-decir-no-a-tus-hijos-de-forma-constructiva