The May Contest #1 by sduttaskitchen: Soul Select Soulmates!
There is no lovelier or stronger experience in life than love. A lot of individuals think that somewhere in the universe, there is an individual created to be with them- a soulmate. The concept of soul picking soulmates sounds very profound and significant. Personally, I have some faith in it, but I also feel it is not as magic or automatic as it is so often believed to be. Love can unite two individuals but does not mean that it will be forever without any work.
Personally I know that soulmates are not a ready made thing but are created. Two individuals can have a connection that is strong as though they have known each other all along when they see each other. It is a gorgeous feeling that can leave one believing that they have discovered their soul mate. But reality is starting to surface as time goes by. Personality, values, and habits differences begin to emerge. Love is not enough now. It is not about how unwilling or willing the two people are to learn about one another and develop.
In the modern world, most relationships fail, and those, which began with a lot of love. Poor communication is one of the significant causes of this. As soon as couples cease to express their thoughts and feelings candidly, misunderstandings start to develop. Minor problems which could have been easily solved end up becoming more substantial. I think that a good number of relationships would be spared, should people just learn how to converse with one another and to be patient and sincere.
Lack of trust is another aspect that leads to the disintegration of relationships. Faith is the keystone of a building. When it is destroyed the entire building is weak. Doubt and insecurity are created when one of the partners lies, cheats or conceals things. When apologies are done, it takes time and effort to restore trust. Love will die away without trust.
Unrealistic expectations are another major factor in failing relationships. Most individuals get into relationships with the hope that their partner will be ideal. They want to be attended to, be understood and be happy at all times. However, the reality is that there is no one who is perfect. No one is without flaws and weaknesses. I now understand that when we set too high expectations, we end up disappointed. We need to learn to accept our partners instead of attempting to transform them so that we can influence them to grow.
Silent killers of relationships are also ego and pride. There are occasions when individuals are unwilling to apologize when they realize their fault. They cling to their ego rather than opting to peace. In my opinion, when I say I am sorry, I do not make someone weak. Rather, it brings about maturity and love. Relationships involve humility on both sides.
To ensure a long lasting relationship, these are some of the principles that both partners should uphold. To begin with, respect has to be mutual. Respect is about listening to one another, respecting their views and being kind to each other. Love is not able to exist without respect.
Second, communication is highly valued. In my opinion, there should be a safe environment that the couples can converse in without feeling they are being judged. All this should be open regardless of the happiness, pain or confusion. Effective communication can be used to address issues before they become too big.
Third, there must be trust and honesty. Couples need to be honest with one another, even when it is challenging. Honesty creates trust and enhances the relationship between two individuals. Trust cannot be established within a single day: it is developed by regular activities.
Patience is another principle. No relationship will be free of any challenges. There will be conflicts, misinterpretations and hard times. In my opinion, the real love is not put to the test when one is happy, but when times are difficult. Patience can assist couples to remain calm and address their issues jointly.
It is also important to be committed. Love is a choice and not an emotion. Some days will be good and some days bad, yet devotion holds people together. Both partners should be ready to remain, to struggle to keep the relationship and to develop together.
To conclude, I suppose that it is not the fate that makes the soulmates, but the hardship and knowledge. Love can unite two individuals, but it is respect, trust, communication, patience, and commitment that keep them together. The key to a good relationship does not lie in finding a perfect individual, it is just about loving an imperfect person in a perfect manner on a daily basis. To me, that is what soulmates mean.
I invite @sduttaskitchen, @meraindia and @piya3 @sampabiswas to drop a very constructive comments on this post and also to participate in this contest.
You have expressed your thoughts in a very simple and honest way, especially it seems to the heart that soulmate is not met by luck but is made with time, understanding and hard work. The importance you mentioned of trust, communication and patience is the foundation of every strong relationship. In today's age, many people leave relationships over small things, but your idea that love requires patience and commitment is very close to reality. Reading this article, one really feels that a successful relationship can only be sustained by the continuous effort of two people.