Are You Really Fine?

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There are certain things we say that has become normal to us, these statements are weighty but have been trivialised and has lost it weight and essence over time. I would also like to add that our society have in a way contributed to the loss of value and weight these words carry.

A very good example of words is this category is the statement "I'm fine". This is suppose to be a response of affirmation confirming the wellness of the responder. Today, I can bet that it has become a statement or response used to cover so much struggles, pains and other negative feeling that people go through.

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Somehow the society has taught us to be strong and responsible enough to carry our burdens alone. It has subtly taught us that no one truly cares, that we should just do all we can within our power to be fine by all means.

All of these seems to really sound logical and true in a way but is this always true? That no one cares? That when you really express the way you feel, no one would empathize or even go all out for your sake? That you should rather allow yourself to be crushed under the weight of your burden than speaking out?

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I think this is where the problem is, Nobody cares is true but an half truth because somebody will definitely care at some point. You say nobody cares yet Nobody know what you're going through. I think we need to start responding well to the question "How are you?" Some are not just asking to get the random response of "I'm fine". Some are genuinely looking out for your well being.

These particular ones are not the ones you should mask your emotions for neither should you hide the way you feel around them. Somehow we know who these set of people are in our lives and we also know those who do not really care but masking your feeling and emotions coupled with your struggles so that no body knows, including those who genuinely care is not actually the best.

I know our pride and ego is always on the line when we decided to respond the other way round by saying "I'm not fine". You can be sure that whoever you respond to would want to give a second look and a pause to be sure of what he or she heard and then begin to probe...the very thing we want to avoid.

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But I'll say it the first step in becoming "fine" especially when the person who asked falls into the category of the ones who really care about you. The bottom line is, do not bottle up completely and use the word "fine" as cover up. Even a complete stranger can be the very help you need.

After all angel are all around us in human form, they do not appear in wings and long white garment.. They look just like every random person you meet on daily basis, the difference is that they mingle among men daily with a mandate to change their lives.

So when next you're asked if your fine, especially by those you are convinced have your best interest at heart, be sincere enough to respond accordingly and not generically, they might just have the solution you need.

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Regards
@lhorgic❤️