If I could change one thing

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One thing you wish you could change in your past?

My habit of assuming instead of confirming. I remember seeing two missed calls from my friend, I had just seen him the previous day. So I assumed it was nothing serious, besides we met yesterday, I didn't bother calling him back.

Why do you wish you could change it? What was wrong?

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Ethan and I are best friends. We were together the previous day. We talked for hours, we even had lunch together. One thing I love about him, he always comes up with a deep and brainstorming conversation whenever we hang out.

I judged his missed calls base on our outing. After we departed, I call to check if he got home safe. He did. So when I saw missed calls from him the next morning, I didn't take it serious. My airtime was finished. I just assumed we met yesterday, it can't be urgent, he will call back. It's now evening, still Ethan didn't call back. I started to worry. I eventually recharge my phone and I had the chance to call but still didn't call. I got carried away with my day and told myself I'll call him later.

It almost night, I was guilty. I called him twice, no answer. I called twice again, he didn't still pick up. I was scare, so I call her mom. She picked up within seconds. "Ethan had an accident this morning," she said.

I almost soaked my trouser. I felt so guilty because of what his mom said next: Ethan called me first. Since I didn't pick up, she decided to call his mom. I felt sad.

Lessons I learn from the experience

Assumptions is not good for close relationships. If I had not assumed, I would have called back Ethan right away. And the satisfaction of Ethan seeing me come to his aid, would have been worth it.

I learned I shouldn't ignore any call. Not only because of emergencies, but because of what I could miss. Assumptions could cost me opportunity, warning and others.

How has the moment shaped the person you are today?

Now, when I miss a call. I don't ignore it. If I don't have airtime at the moment, I recharge and call back. I believe now that if someone calls twice, it's not by mistake, but intentional.

The change is not just for me. If I'm with someone close to me and they missed a call, I draw their attention to it. If I later heard something bad had happened because I stayed quiet when I could have spoken, I would feel more than guilty.

"Call back when you miss a call, don't assume" is my theme now.

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