Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 141: Friendship Palava

Hello great Steemians, today I will be writing on friendship and my thoughts and experiences on it.

Friendship is one of the most beautiful things in the world, that is if you are lucky to have a true friend and you are one yourself. Even the bible says that a friend loves at all times and a brother is born for adversity. Proverbs 17:17.

No, I don't think it's wise to have just one best friend. My reasons for saying so is because one's best friend can fail, abd then the person can then turn to another or two other best friends. I prefer having at least two best friends if not three, so that if the other turns against me which is humanly possible, I can know that I have other best friends tho it's not easy when your best friend betrays you. Besides, if one has issues, oneight need the help of more than one best friend. I prefer a circle of best friends to just one best friend. I have had situations where I've had best friends and my best friends had other best friends but it never made me jealous. This is because my friendship with my best friend may not affect my best friend's friendship with another. Besides, I don't know how or what they relate about, so it's not supposed to affect my friendship unless my best friend stops spending time with me. I cannot be jealous and discontinue my friendship unless the my best friend stops relating with me or starts snubbing me.

I might not have popular opinion on this but I think a married person isn't supposed to end their friendship with the opposite gender after marriage. Rather, he or she is supposed to curtail the way he or she relates with the opposite gender. The calls or communication should lesson, also, the married person is supposed to introduce his or her friend to his or her spouse so that the spouse will know nothing is hidden. Then there should be no hidden communication. The reason I'm saying so is because one doesn't know where one's help can or will come from tomorrow.

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I might not sound like a true friend right now but it is what it is. If my friend makes a particular mistake twice or thrice, I'll forgive and continue the friendship, but if she continues more than three times in that same mistake and refuses to learn from it, I think it's time I move on rather than allow her drag me down. Example my friend keeps on getting pregnant despite the fact that she doesn't have the means of feeding the children and then always beg for money everyday despite the fact that I have helped numerous times or my friend like investing in Ponzi scheme or playing bet and loses money everytime.

I can also cut off from my friend if she does things I don't like continuously despite my plea for her to stop it. Example dating other women's husbands or living a promiscuous lifestyle or even insulting elderly people. All these are few examples. A more serious one is confiding in my friend and always hearing it outside, I can cut off from my friend.

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My advice to people with many friends is that they should be careful. It's good to have many friends but from study or research, friends can use their knowledge of the other person to hurt the person. Most of the betrayals abd disappointment comes from close friends. I have an experience and it wasn't a palatable one. To have a loyal friend, one must be loyal too. And not all friends are worth it, some friends are worth cutting off. And not everyone is supposed to stay as a friend forever. Even relatives sometimes do t stay in people's lives forever, so when the friendship has lost its value and one trues to ignite the fire and see that it brings oy discouragement, it's time to move on.