Friendship Palava

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Hi friends, welcome to my blog. In this post I want to share my thoughts concerning the topic above, I hope you find this entry of mine interesting. Let's get right into it guys!

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Do you think it's wise to have just one best friend like someone has one wife? Explain

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I love the comparison in this question "like someone has one wife". My answer to this is simple, it's a "Yes" and this answer is based on the comparison I highlighted above. I don't think you need many friends in that category called "best".

Your many good friends is just enough if you ask me but if the position "best" should be occupied in your life, it should just be one person who seems to be outstanding and more reliable amongst the many good folks you have in your life .

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For married folks, that one person who should occupy that best friend position in your life should be your spouse and nobody else and the reason is not far fetched, you become one the very day you tie the knot even though you're two personality and of course you both spend more time together than anyone else and have higher tendency of understanding each other than any other person because you're literally together.

If you ain't married, you can just single out someone that is more trustworthy and reliable among the folks around you. I don't think you need too many people as "best friend" especially if you're a female...the female gender is a topic for another day and I really do not want to digress hence my full stop right here.

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If you have a best friend and your best friend has another friend whom he/she spends most of the time with, will you be jealous and discontinue? Explain

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Now you will understand better why my recommendation on "best friend" for couples should be their spouse. If you're my spouse, no one else can have your time and attention more than I do. So there is no way I can get jealous because we desire and prioritise each other above any other person, in fact we regard any other person as third party....

Among non married folks this is not usually the case, because even the person you claim to call your best friend has someone he or she regards as best friend. This happens mostly because one party chooses the other party based on one quality or the other seen, thereby neglecting the fact that the person he or she has chosen also has someone in his or her cycle that he or she wants to be best friends with.

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This then breeds a clash of interest in the long run because for many there was no mutual consent to be best friends. This is the benefit that couples who see themselves as best friends enjoy because they are just two intentional folk who have drawn a line around their relationship that no one is allowed to cross no matter who they are.

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Should a married man or woman end their friendships with people of the opposite sex after marriage? Give reasons for your answer

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Yes, if and when necessary. There are some people you can never be friends with anymore after you get married. The reason is not far fetched, these folks are people that could tamper with the foundation of your marriage.

This could be due to your relationship with them. There are some folks who are the opposite sex that you consider more than just friends and if you want to be safe, it's expedients you end such a relationship or completely distance yourself from them so you don't end up with painful stories that touch the heart.

From the above you can see that I gave a condition for ending relationships as married folks. This means you're not to cut ties with every opposite sex in your life because you're married, instead draw line they should never cross so that your home can continue to stand.

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Will you end a friendship if your friend keeps on making mistakes or doing things you don't like?

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What kind of mistake are we talking about here? Anyways anyone who keeps making silly mistake will eventually lost the trust and confidence others have in him or her and eventually lose those people because they won't be able to continually put up with those mistakes, especially the kinds that can be avoided. Life is really to short to go around circle again and again.

Mistakes that would make me end friendship must be serious and continuous, if mistakes persist, I will silently distance myself and of course the relationship would die a natural death. Mistakes should not persist if the relationship must stand strong and solid. We must all strive to add value to each other in friendship rather than being liabilities and burdens...

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What Is your advice to people with many friends?

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Having too many friends....hmmmm. What can I say, you do not need many friends, you only need a few that are very reliable. Too many friends come with their own disadvantages because these folks will surely exhibit different traits which you might not be able to keep up with in the long run.

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More so, you have a responsibility and role to play to keep the friendship going whether convenient or not and that's because you consider them as friends. How about filtering those in your circle you call friends... Are they all really your friends? Are some not colleagues and should be treated as such, are some not acquaintances? Are some not associates? Are some not neighbours?

Well when you're able to carefully scrutinise, you will understand that the word "friend" is weighty and should not be a word to be used carelessly. Only few folk should find their way into this part of your life and not just anybody. This will help you properly manage friendship.

Sigh! I think I've poured out so much in just the little time I've got to put this together. I hope you picked a thing or two from this write up. Feel free to share with me in the comment session your thoughts about what I've shared. Garcia's!

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Regards
@lhorgic❤️