The May contest #1 by sduttaskitchen: Soul select soulmates!
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Hi friends, welcome to my blog, today I will be sharing with you my thoughts about this topic above. Let's get right into it guys I hope you find my entry interesting.
Do you believe the term "Soul select soulmates"? Your viewpoint!
I really do not know why I struggled at first trying to digest and agree with this school of thought, it only means to me that something is wrong with it. Anyways whoever came up with this ideology must have seen various occurrences and experiences to come up with an idea like this.
The truth is, many times, it doesn't work like this like this in reality. No doubt people can connect easily upon seeing each other. I've once experienced this but not in the aspect of love & relationship. I just met a young man in a meeting I went and there was a pull from both ends to get to know each other and boom we just flowed like we have known each other from Adam.
But when it comes to love and relationship, it can be dicey, very dicey and tricky because what you call soul connect might just be infatuation or love at first sight. So while you're rejoicing that you just found someone your soul connects with, the other person might not have connected with you on the same level. The pull might just be different for both parties.
Hence the reason why people are being careful not to attribute their souls to serious issues like this. Many now choose to connect with people with their brain and not their soul because of the numerous unpleasant experiences they have had for believing their soul found them a soul mate.
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Speaking from what I believe as a Christian, I would rather choose to allow myself to be led by God to get a soul mate than allowing my soul to choose for me. God knows more than my soul does. He knows when my soul is unsure, or being manipulated. Since He has my best interest at heart, I would allow him to lead me to whoever will complement and bring me peace.
Please provide insights into the factors contributing to the breakdown of relationships.
I think we just just digressed a bit but then I will love to marry this section with what I have already established above. I won't be going on to spell out things you already know like lack of communication, trust, transparency and the likes because you already know them.
In marrying what I've shared in the section above with this current one, I would say hinging relationship on "my soulmate or My soul chose him or her for me" without getting to see if both soul (parties) are compatible is one of the major the reasons why many relationship brrakdown. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying everyone your soul connects with is evil, not at all.
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Sometimes you have to take your time to know why you connect with someone in the first place. Not all reason points to a love affair. Some are just for friendship. And if you think love is in the equation, then you should also look out for compatibility because a triangle peg will never fit into a square.
Understanding this will save you a lot of headache. For example, Miss. A met Mr.B in some spectacular way and somehow everything got magical and then one thing led to the other, they discovered they were in love. Along the line Mr.B started exhibiting characters and expressing values that are not what Miss.A believes in or likes.
Miss.A then becomes confused and in a fix because she feels they are connected by some "soulish" stuff (which many believe transcends the physical realm) and should be together. She tries to fix the relationship until she is unable to anymore because the truth is, something can bring two people together but value, belief system and ideology goes a long way in keeping them together.
What usually happens is that one of the party ends up seeing that the other lacks value like communication skill, transparency , Integrity, genuine love etc. which eventually leads to the breakdown of such a relationship.
What are the fundamental principles that both parties must uphold to sustain a long-term relationship?
If by any means you find somebody you connect with on a deeper level, someone you're very convinced about then you both need to put in the work to ensure the relationship works.
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Sadly, Love is never enough in this case even though it serves as the bedrock of a relationship. Other factors need to come into play. I mean factors like
Commitment: You need to be committed to your spouse, be intentional about choosing him or her even when feelings seem to be fading.
Respect : both parties deserve respect from each other especially in public, make each other feel important and cherish
Forgiveness: long term relationships are for two continuous forgivers. You will offend each other with your actions and inactions but be ready to always forgive and move on.
Transparency: never trade this for anything in your relationship. Relationships built on secrets and lies never last. They are like time bombs waiting to explode.
The above and many more are the factors needed to sustain long term relationships. I think I need to drop my pen at this point. I've said a lot of things and I will like to read your opinions about what I've shared. Feel free to drop them in the comment section. Thanks for your time. Gracias!
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