⏺ I'm back. A message to my haters.
Haters gonna hate.
I would just like to apologize for being away for more than 3 days. I know it doesn't seem that long, but for me that is 6 blog posts worth. It feels like forever. Truth be told, I had an emotional breakdown.
I have never felt this way before. I definitely do not want to have this as my rant, but I feel it's best if I am as transparent as possible here. Throughout my time here, I have had a lot of transformation. I have needed to make personal changes within myself in the last 3 months, and I'll be honest, it hasn't been as easy as it may look.
I have had many people, all of a sudden, contact me in the last 48 hours telling me nothing but negativity. Telling me how useless I am on this platform. How I am just here for the money, and teaching people unrealistic expectations. I like to be as open-minded as possible. Always open to constructive criticism, and other people's opinions.
Let's just be clear. There is a difference between sharing your opinion, and being straight up rude.
I really try to convince myself that every opinion is a valid opinion, and that you can learn from almost any situation. However, I have also come to the realization that aside from anyone else's opinion of you, you still have the final say for what you want to do in your life.
This is not going to be some rah-rah speech. This is a message to all my haters.
You can say what you want. You can carry on spending your hours analyzing what I do all day. You can do whatever you like to attempt to make me feel bad, but at the end of the day, I am still confident in what I am doing.. And just for that simple reason, keep your negative opinion to yourself.
Now look, I understand if you are trying to help another person grow from the criticism you are giving. Then that's great. However, have some tact. Have some manners. Have some damn respect before just throwing out insults. Because if you are just insulting, then you are nothing but a silly hater.
You have made me really think these last three days, and I have come to my own conclusion. You do not control my life. You may think you have a say, but let me just make it clear, you don't.
You should know that what I type, I experience. Let this be a lesson to all of you people who are tired of letting other people step on you and tell you that you are no good. Ignore the haters. They have zero say in how you are to run your life. They are simply jealous. I have never seen a hater pay my bills. Only to push me way further in motivation that I have ever been before. Let that be your fuel.
There will always be those people who will want nothing else but to have you fail. Talking about it is one thing, but being in the situation can be very depressing. It's tough.. But at the end of the day, it is these things that make us stronger.
To all my haters: Thank you for this. Thank you for making me feel the most pain and misery that I have felt in many months. If it wasn't for your unkindness, I would never have gotten depressed, felt sorry for myself, and had a reality check. It is because of you that I have now evolved to an even stronger, more disciplined version of myself.
Take care. Just know this is only the beginning.
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Whenever you do something out of the ordinary, you are gonna get haters, it is inevitable...
Glad that solved it for yourself and fought your way through it. Just ignore the haters. You will get to the point where you will actually love your haters and thank them for the renewed encouragement to become a little bit better every day.
I have had it happen on other projects in the past to myself and I know the feels. Once you have overgrown this you will not feel the slightest pain when reading a negative comment.
Talk soon.
Thanks for your message bro :) You are so right.
I already feel like that now. I guess that's one cool thing of getting battered and smacked down to the ground, is that you really grow the most :)
Thanks for being awesome! How are you?
Everythings fine. My life is moving in the direction I want it to go, which is one of the most important things to me now. Talk soon :-)
I knew this day was coming.
The first time I saw you and checked your profile this was when I was 3 day on Steemit I said to myself:" This guy will have a lot of haters!" and here you are telling us exactly that.
Haters gonna hate exactly it is like that it was always like that and it will be always like that. I appreciate that you are talking so honest about your emotional breakdown this is normal, we are emotional beings. And it hurts when people throw something which is definitely not true, but we cant change it. They will always exist.
Like always I am honest with you: You are doing an amazing job. You are an inspiration for so many people. Your character would not grow when you would not face such difficulties. But like you said. Let them talk because they will always talk and yes, the main reason is that they are jealous. They want what you have but are not willing to pay the price you did.
I agree with your Post, I want to add one more thing:
Confront your haters with grace and goodness.
Why I am saying that.
Because then you are different and you pouring hot coals over them.
Think, so many people want that you explode that you say insulting things and than they feel confirmed. I knew it this guy is an asshole like all the money greedy people
Proof them wrong, be different, go your way! It's just the beginning.
This is just my advice for you. Feel free to think about it or not.
Keep on Steemin my friend, you are on the right way.
Hey my man, I appreciate your opinion right there.
Your advice was brilliant, and I have definitely taken it into the utmost consideration :) You are right. If negativity spreads on more negativity, then by giving the sam reaction in a negative way, it is only satisfying them. True that :)
I wouldn't usually rant like this, but it's been quite a crazy three days. Thanks for this.
I appreciate your comment :)
Take your time bro, don't stress you.
You already have real following who understand you and this is aweseome.
I read some of the comments and what i saw it's great.
Looking forward to read your Posts, but don't stress you my friend. :)
I agree. The comments and support I have received from some of my followers is crazy cool. I am so very grateful. Thanks again :)
There is a difference between having an opinion, and just being a mean-spirited a-hole. Too many people attempt to disguise their evil nastiness as an 'opinion' that they are free to express. They may be free to express it, but no one should mistake it for an opinion. Ignore these people. That is my advice.
I agree. :)
If they are instantly negative...that's my cue to move on!
(Sometimes I still make mistakes though!)
my opinion is just an opinion of someone who faced similar situations in real life. Somehow somewhere along the way, I had to " attend" a war and it set me back a few years in my academia. Suddenly the world was full of haters who told me I was good for nothing. I had to give up 4 months of my life being emotionally depressed and a wreck. That's all I lost and that loss was the greatest thing that happened to me. I put my head down and focused and worked like a maniac. I am extremely successful in my field. I may have never risen to these heights of the setback had not sent me springing forward.
Now I see haters as a springboard. Accept the challenge and focus. The battle is not with them but with your own self. Keep your score in your head and don't ever leave again. I expect you to be only stronger with time. Best wishes and Godspeed.
I am very sorry about what you went through. I really appreciate this comment, however. Your support is really great, and I thank you for that!
You are awesome :)
This is what comes in my head when haters try to bring me down!
"Can't nobody hold me down... ohh no
I got to keep on movin"
I kick them out of my life.
I think your doing great here on steemit :)
Puff Daddy :D Love it man! Hahaha
How old is that video :D So funny.
Thanks for that. I appreciate it :)
What I can say to you is stay strong and firm. That’s the spirit :) there’s always believer and haters. Engage more with supporters and just ignore those haters. You are making great progress here @enazwahsdarb!
Thank you my man! I really appreciate what you said right there. You are awesome!
Same goes to u man! We have your back here in Steemit (though we may not know each other in real life) but I can sense your genuine passion.
Man they say whether there is almost no difference between how the brain interprets a digital visual, and a visual in reality..
So a relationship online can be the same passion as anything in real life :)
Yup. There’s always two side and people always have opinions, especially for those making success. Steem on man!
I read another analogy in a book yesterday. It said, opinions are like nostrils, everyone has two of them :D
haha weird analogy!
Haha I know right :D I found it in a very sophisticated book, so it must be accurate lol
When you start having so many haters that means that you are doing something right. These people are just jealous that's all, but I am sure you have more people liking your stuff then vice versa, that is a fact.
Many people study your content closely and many people are inspired by it both content wise and structure wise. I see many many people even trying to follow your style now.
The higher up you try to climb the more people will want to pull you down. Just follow your direction and soon you will be high enough that no haters can reach you anymore .
What up Dan :)
What an awesome message man. I really appreciate all that. Congrats on hitting 60 rep by the way!
The support I have gotten from you guys right here is crazy. Thank you very much.
You are welcome buddy and thanks for noticing me hitting 60 :)
Of course :) I like to try and pay as much attention to each of your guys a possible! Keep it up. Let' do this.
Alright man - keep up the good work !
Ah thanks man! As well as to you! You are awesome :)
Sorry to hear you went through this but believe it will only make you stronger
You are right so many people are so obsessed with there own opinion being the only right one and ramming it down people’s throats
I am always willing to listen to people’s opinions but don’t want them forced on me a tactful comment and move on is best for me
And one last thing
Opinions are like assholes everyone has them but we don’t need to see them!!!
Thank you for that man. I really appreciate that. Your input was awesome :)
That was the funniest thing I have read all week :D Thanks for that!
Just try to remember:
Opinions only matter when they come from people we respect.
What does it matter what someone thinks of you; if they have no respect for you, and you have none for them - it doesn't matter at all.
Like @tattoodjay said ....we all have em 😆
I thought you might need a chuckle I am glad it worked and have a great day
Hahaha yeah man. That was solid. Thanks lol :)
What can we say, Zane.
Other than hang in there and congrats in finding energy in and from hostility. Sorry to hear that they actually did manage to get you down for a (short) while.
But, it is important that you remember that hate is a strong feeling. If they are out for you, more likely than not, they envy your success. But struggle themselves to replicate it.
If they express hate towrds you, in whichever form, all they are actually showing is letting out their own inferiority. Because hate also does require an emotional attachment to grow from.
As for the belligerent internet mob dogs which we all at times have to deal with, they are a rotten breed. But when they get to you, always remember to ask yourself what you have done that day and whether you will sleep well because of it at the end of the day. As long as the second answer is a positive one, try to shut them out.
They probably never even stand still asking themselves those questions. We even shouldn't bother trying to wonder if they do.
Your success here on Steemit is one you have walked the talk for, you have worked very hard for. It is deserved. Having haters is nothing more than the confirmation of that.
Stand strong and rock on! 👊
Hey my friend. Thank you very much for that message. I appreciate that.
You made a very good point right there. To be able to 'hate', it takes a significant amount of energy and emotion. Very true. No matter if it's positive emotion, or negative emotion, it's still emotional energy. It's still draining for the individual.
I really appreciate your kind words.
I can safely say that just reading these comments today, I am feeling at least double as motivated. You guys are just crazy awesome!
In vlogging community we have this mindset that if you don't have haters or bashers then you are not yet a successful vlogger. And I must say it is the same with steemit. I, myself, got haters after I was featured in your post and Jerry's post. They are trying to insist their opinion as my reality. Of course I was having a turmoil for hours because of it. But I decided to move forward and focus on become great on what I do and that is to inspire people.
The people that I want to inspire is way more important than naysayers and toxic people. So I need to focus on those people that I want to inspire rather than wasting my precious time with negative people.
I'm glad that you are back. I've been visiting your channel 3-4x per day to check for your new posts. Been wondering what happen and why were you missing in action. Now I knoe why. I do hope you are able to shake it off and move forward. Keep writing and keep inspiring. You're always amazing and you're a great person. Wish you all the best. Take care.
Hey my friend :) It's great to see you here again.
I would just like to thank you for being such a solid follower and support. It's really quite incredible to see how dedicated you are in all of my posts. I know sometimes I don't get to answering you, and yes, I do see every single one of your comments. I just have many other's to get to, that I can't always respond :) I also see your 13 unread messages on chat every day.. So don't stress, I am not one of those who just ignore people.
You are awesome. Talk soon! Thank you for your message!
you don't have to respond to me all the time. I know how many followers you have and the number of comments and replies you need to make. I thought of not commenting at all so you can have extra time to do other things that responding to my comments but I cannot ignore not to comment on this one though.
As I said you are amazing. Just continue the things you are doing and I am just here. I will read your every post and I will comment from time to time. You should start collecting haters. It's a crown for people who are a rising star. Hehehe
Don't worry, I'm doing great. I'm experimenting but I think I know where I am leading now. :) Thanks
My goal here is to get as much comments and engagement as possible :)
Don't ever be ashamed to send me your thoughts!! I really enjoy it :)
Naahhh... you know how shameless I can be with you in here or in our private conversations. I always express my thoughts. 😂😂😂 Be well my friend.
Oh I know hahaha :D Stay awesome :)