Cool, had better read it, I have a few comments.
I believe it is essential for you to draw the distinction between honesty and truthfulness.
Honesty is shaped by opinion while the truth is shaped by fact.
This is, then, best modified by an understanding of relativism. Essentially, understanding that there are very few universal truths in existence, the rest falls into the thin line between reality and perception: opinion.
There is little wrong about being honest, except when your honesty breaks truth. This is where cognitive dissonance comes in. You may think you are being honest, but if your statements are based on less than complete truths, it is unfactual.
On a grander level, being factual is utterly important, but too difficult for outspoken people. That is why attempting to be proper in honesty is important. This is where political correctness comes in.
Though political correctness sounds like a dogmatic attack on free speech and honesty, it is merely a suggestion. It is a means to shape your honesty with the truthful harms of being improperly outspoken. If you like mathematics, I wrote an article addressing this in the context of microaggressions:
https://medium.com/@JPederson96/microaggressions-a-statistical-understanding-of-emotional-impacts-25f93b18d36b
If you want to understand why certain words, in particular, should be cautioned, it comes from how loaded the word is. Like you expressed, you dislike being called a B*tch. That word loads a punch. There are ways you can load a word without being offensive.
I wrote an article on loaded language here:
https://medium.com/@JPederson96/loaded-language-a-rational-choice-theory-application-cca039a35f8
Essentially, think of language as means to carry weight to message and filling your message with hate, be it intentional or not, harms your own message. Load it with power, instead, by understanding diction and stronger word choice.
My best example is idiot versus eejit. Eejit is a latin word that means idiot, but eejit is stronger. Eejit is a whip while the idiot is a stumble, but I explain it in the article above.
Thanks for the article and I hope my comment lends some worth to you!
Love,
JP
Thank you for your insight - I have read it and re-read it and whilst I can appreciate the accuracy of it - I am not sure that you are going to like what I am about to say... every single aspect of your approach is factual, and if I am "honest" my entire piece was gut driven - and as anybody who operates on a gut driven level will testify, there is little or no "analysis" that comes into that process - it is an emotionally and spiritually geared one.
If there was the same level of analysis, then it would become a thought driven - "logical/practical" approach (which is how I am seeing yours.) It is flooded with a thousand facts but no "feeling".
I do not operate on those levels. (honestly no offense meant) - my post was a lot less about the facts and much more about the energetic level of honesty and its impact. I wasn't really looking to dissect the difference between the words and so forth.
Re. your quote: On a grander level, being factual is utterly important, but too difficult for outspoken people. That is why attempting to be proper in honesty is important. This is where political correctness comes in.
Perhaps this is so, because they are emotionally driven and not mentally driven. Political correctness and facts are of zero consequence. Feeling, is!
Honesty can be heart driven. A place which often sees little logic, but is seldom wrong.
I think we have two very contrasting view points on this. Neither wrong, just both very different. :)
Agreed, however, I want to devolve something for a moment.
You are placing logic and emotion as mutually exclusive things as if one does not influence the other. This is a societally placed logic that has existed for far too long to try and effectively devolve on the mass level.
Logic can drive emotion and emotion can drive logic. Some people have a logical person and others have a passionate personality; and, even this is very complex which is why it isn't a binary "this type or that type of person" because there are sixteen personality types.
This is why B*tch is very offensive. It associates outspoken to negative; it associates passionate to negative; most importantly, it associates females to overly emotional which suggests emotions and logic contradict each other.
Also, no offense taken :)! I love discussion and philosophical topics.
I think I have a lot more than sixteen personality types. lol ;) Thanks again for the input and feedback :) - personality No. 25 :D
Fair enough