Partnership in Marriage

In a marriage both partners should feel equal, if they do not then they are the signs of a unhealthy marriage. If one partner has to constantly compromise to keep the relationship going then it's an unfair partnership. It happens in many marriages where one partner is all the time compromising to maintain peace and in the bargain gets so much burned out that forgets the meaning of self-love, which is so not right. In a toxic relationship it's not necessary that one partner is bad or abusive. There can be many things that can make a relationship toxic.

A friend of mine has been going through this. The husband is not a bad person, he is a good person but he is a self-absorbed person, he cannot easily think beyond himself. It is always about him, what he liked and what he does not like. Some times he convinces her with love and some times with arguments, but it is always his way or the highway. He keeps telling her that he is low on finances because he is starting a new business, which is fair enough she understands, but then when it comes to his own things he does not hesitate to spend. His hesitation and low money are only for her requirements, where he feels that she should understand. He is a very self-centered person and that's making the relationship more and more difficult as time goes by.

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She does not work so she is dependent on him for finance, and he believes that it his decision how much he should give her for her monthly expenses, which is bare minimum to just basic needs. They are not poor or low on income, he is doing good but he just does not want to spend on her or give her anything. He believes that she is the housewife so she should be doing all the house chores and not interfering in other matters like his work and finance. Phewww, I don't know why such man exist in this world :-)

I relationship has to be understanding, supportive, caring for each other and not that only person keeps doing all this and the other one takes it for granted and does his or her own things, without bothering what the partner is feeling. As of now the girl feels traumatized and she has left his home and come to her mother's home. After she has come back, he says he is sorry and will work it out. But I am thinking do these habits really change, and will he change. From what I have seen around in my cases, I feel he is extremely unreliable and these words are only to get her back. May be he will be nice for some time but then would get back to his old habits.

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